25 Jun Eulogy to the Living (Small changes in the words you speak will make a big difference in the life you live) Part 3

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Don’t just hand out flowers and compliments at someone’s funeral!  Have a eulogy for the living!

It’s actually little things that no one sees, that create big things that everyone wants!  Little changes in the words you speak will make a big difference in the life you live!  

Last week we began to share from our…“Six Word Wonders”:

  1. If you want to change the life you have, you need to change the words you speak.
  2. Don’t use your words to describe your life, use your words to design your life.
  3. The words you continually say…will eventually stay.

This week let’s continue with…

4. What you continually verbalize, will eventually materialize.

5. Your words will produce disproportionate results

Please allow me to share scriptures that validate that truth:

James 3:3-6 “Behold, we put bits in the horses’ mouths that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body.  Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, withersoever the governor listeth.  Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.”

In James’ powerful words he describes three small things that produce three big results:

  1. The small bit which turns a big horse.  This represents you.
  2. The small rudder which turns a big ship.  This represents your life’s circumstances (notice you must get a hold of yourself before you can get a hold of your circumstances).
  3. The small kindling which creates a big fire.  This represents your big mess.

In all three of these examples, our words create disproportionate results!

  1. Small changes in the words you speak will create big changes in the life you live!

For example, show me a marriage that is struggling and I will show you life-taking words. Show me a marriage that is successful and I will show you a marriage with life-giving words.  Show me a person most people dread being around and I will show you life-taking words.  Show me a person people love being around and I will show you life-giving words.  

While there are literally thousands of life-taking words, let me give you “5 Life Takers”:

  1. “I can’t stand you!”
  2. “You’ll never amount to anything!”
  3. “I don’t know why I ever married you!”
  4. “You’re stupid!”
  5. “You are from Michigan?”  (lol!)

Conversely, let me give you “5 Life Givers”:

  1. “I’d marry you all over again!”
  2. “I’m so thankful God put you in my life”
  3. “I’m so proud of you”
  4. “I believe in you!”
  5. “I love you!”

What do you say, let’s start a revival of encouragement!  Let’s give our eulogies to the living!

Please let me share with you “Two Revival Realms”:

  1. If you can’t say something nice…skip it!  

Mama was right when she gave us this advice, but mama did not take it far enough!

2. If you can say something nice…say it!

About God!  About others!  About yourself!  When I say “about yourself” I don’t mean being bragadocious but I do mean to say what God says about you!  Remember: Thinking about it won’t change anyone’s life.  Intention is not action!  

Lastly, remember that there are two types of failure in life:

  1. Those who did but never thought
  2. Those who thought but never did!

Text it!  Call it! Write it!  Say it!

Now let me close with two “Say it” standards:

  1. If you want to see it…say it!  

If you want a better marriage…say it!  If you want to make a bigger difference for Jesus…say it!  If you want to encourage someone…say it!

2. If you can’t add the words “and that’s the way I want it”…then don’t say it!

This one principle can change your life forever…think of it:

You say to your child, “You’ll never amount to anything…and THAT’S the way I want it!”

You say to your spouse, “You make me sick…and THAT’S the way I want it.”

You say to yourself, “I never seem to get any breaks…and THAT’S the way I want it!”

If you can’t add “…and that’s the way I want it”…then don’t say it!  Remember:  

Little changes in your words will make a big difference in your life…and THAT’S the way I want it!

Join us next month as we continue our series…